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The Weight We Don't Talk About

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There is a kind of heaviness that often does not announce itself. It does not come with tears or shouting or those dramatic moments. It is quiet pressure that sits somewhere between your chest and your thoughts. A heaviness that makes ordinary days feel slightly harder, and small tasks feel progressively heavier.


It is the weight we do not talk about

We Carry More Than We Show


Most of us wake up every morning carrying responsibilities, expectations, and pressure that no one else sees. Research shows that over 75% of people experience physical or emotional symptoms of stress daily, but only a small number choose to speak about it openly.

You are not the only one carrying so much in silence - Morgan Harper Nichols

Another study published in the Journal of Abnormal Psychology found that people often hide emotional fatigue, so they avoid burdening others, even when they desperately need help.


This quiet weight builds slowly. This can happen due to:

  • Overthinking

  • Uncertainty

  • Emotional exhaustion

  • Simply having too much on your mind


Since nothing 'major' happened, we tell ourselves that it is not worth mentioning.

Why We Do Not Talk About It


We refrain from talking about heaviness because:

  • We do not want to worry the people we love

  • We feel guilty for being tired

  • We compare ourselves to others

  • We do not find the right words to explain ourselves

  • We are afraid of seeming 'weak'

There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you - Maya Angelou

However, emotional weight is not measured by how visible it is.

Quiet pain is still pain. Silent overwhelm is still overwhelm. You deserve softness even when your mind insists you should not.

The Body Remembers What the Mind Tries to Ignore


Psychologists often say that "the body keeps the score"


Research by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk showed that emotional strain often shows up as:

  • Chest heaviness

  • Unexplained fatigue

  • Headaches

  • Irritability

  • Trouble Concentrating


And not because something is wrong with you. Your body is trying to tell you that it is tired.

Gentle Reminders for Heavy Days


You do not have to earn rest.

You do not have to justify your heaviness.

You do not have to explain your feelings.

Every storm runs out of rain - Maya Angelou

Your feelings are allowed to be heavy.

You are allowed to be tired without any reason whatsoever.

You Do Not Have to Carry It Alone


You are doing the best you can.

The weight you carry may be invisible to others, but it does not have to stay hushed within you.


You are allowed to talk about your heaviness.

You are allowed to put it down, even for a slight second.

Finally, you are allowed to look for softness, rest, and understanding


You are human, and that is enough.




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